Many midlife singles want to date, but between raising children or busy careers most are convinced that they don’t have time to date. Some singles aren’t sure how to approach dating or where to turn for help. To make the most out of your super sexy single life, check out my expert advice and remember “love less, date more.”
Q. I have tried on-line dating with very little success, and now I am considering the assistance of a matchmaker. Are matchmakers worth a try?
A. It sounds to me like you are having trouble finding your dating niche; i.e. an approach that is well suited to your interest and social nature. Are you dating for recreation or to find a mate?
One of the main reasons I created the Dating Cocktails blog was that I felt that a lot of singles were being left out of the discussion. Singles have varied reasons for dating, and all should be included in the conversation. All daters should be able to carve out their own paths for happiness and find the best ways to showcase their personalities.
The main goal in using a matchmaker is to find love, possibly marriage. They can be extremely pricey, ranging from $100 to $6,000 or more, and there are no guarantees that you will find the perfect mate. So do your research and interview a few before you decide to use one.
If, however, your main objective is casual dating, then forgo the matchmaker, save yourself the extra expense and try an interactive ice breaker party for singles, i.e. speed dating, lock and key parties, or join a local meet-up group. These events range in cost from $10 to $50 and are great beginner steps when it comes to the dating process.
Q. In addition to running a successful business, I’m a single mother of 9-year-old twins and a toddler. I just started dating again, but I’m having difficulties finding time to date when I already have an extremely full schedule?
A. The simple answer is to closely examine your schedule for times to carve out an hour or two for dating. Take advantage of the flexibility that comes with owning your own business. Just as you schedule important events for your business, schedule important events for your dating life. Abandon the misconception that dating opportunities just happen. You have to be available for them to happen. If it’s important to you, plan for it so that it accommodates your business and your children. Consider non-traditional dating hours. For example, if you work evening or weekends, you may need to look at early morning or mid-day for dating. If you work a more traditional 9 to 5 schedule, lunch or happy-hour dates would work best for you. Don’t be shy about calling in a favor from a relative or friend who’s willing to baby-sit or if necessary pay for childcare.
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