Peace Out! Predicament
Someone didn’t get the memo that this was meant to be a date. You endure thoroughly disrespectful behavior – lateness, foul language, flirting with the wait staff – all around deplorable. Has this every happened to you? Even more surprising is if this behavior is exhibited by someone you know, or at least, thought you knew. Obviously, you would want to scream or hit something! And who would blame you? But, remember that it’s a date, and we are not immune from bad behavior, this can happen to anyone. Luckily, if this should happen to you, my advice will allow you to plan a free-as-a-bird getaway.
The Ingredients
1. Essentials: bad behavior -- foul language, unwanted sexual advances, wandering eye, intrusion by your date’s past or present friends or lovers, texting/talking on the cell, drunkenness
2. Timing: lateness with no excuse or apology, no-show
3. Who’s joining you for this date: new acquaintance, friend, former or current sexual partner
4. The atmosphere: awkward silence, uncomfortable, tense, distant
5. Interaction with each other: combative, utter silence, annoyance
6. Avoiding a confrontation: honesty, make-up an excuse, get up and walk out, end the evening early
7. Transportation: alternate transportation, extra cash for a cab,
8. The getaway: friend-on-call, backup activity with friends, backup date
Here’s A Possible Recipe:
Wandering Eye, Unapologetic lateness, New Acquaintance, Awkward Silence, Utter Silence, Honesty, Cab, Back-up Activity with friends
Tip: When things like this happen the best refuge is people and places that give you comfort and allow you to re-group. I do not recommend going directly home after a bad date. Instead, shake it off. Try venting to a good friend, or pulling up a stool at your favorite bar. Dating disappointments have less of an impact mentally when you move on quickly and don’t allow them to fester in your psyche.
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